Posted by Anonymous on 2015/03/03 under Uncategorized It kind of astonished me that at some point of my life, I realised I did not have a happy family life. I mean, when arguments and fightings are the norm since one’s childhood, one would think this is the way it is. And one would not suspect these things in the family are not appropriate. It’s like a child growing up only eating apples, he never knew what an orange is until he found out one day and felt amazed that fruit isn’t equal to apples only. So my understanding of family life was arguments, hostility, fights and tears. I thought that these were normal. But as I grew up, I gradually noticed not all families are like that. The family lives of some people I know actually are quite happy. It’s when I discovered family life does not equal to unhappiness. I am put off establishing long-term relationship, not to mention have my own family. The ridiculous thing is, when the friends of my parents look at me and my siblings and how academically successful we are, they envy us as a family and think my mom did a good job educating us. The horrible fact is, NO! No one is ever happy in this so called family. Everyone suffers. I am glad I am able to escape the sufferings. I am living in another country now. Although independence brings difficulties of living a loner’s life. But of the two evils, I think living a loner’s life is the lesser of the two evils. At least I don’t need to walk in to a home with people shouting insults at each other or threatening to chop each other’s head off. Although I do come home to a cold and empty space every evening. And it feels as if this way of life will last till the end of my time on earth. Maybe I should feel sad. But then, of the two evils, being alone is the lesser of the two evils.